Parenting the New Kids on the Block

Care and Maintenance of Your Crystal, Diamond, or Rainbow Child


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Natural Self

This nugget comes from Bashar. If you are not familiar with who Bashar “is,” just read it. If it resonates, check out Bashar’s link at the bottom. If it doesn’t resonate, click over to another post.

Personally,  I think he accurately describes what happens to to us–Indigo, Crystal, Rainbow, Diamond, Gold–in the experiment of “school” and when we think we must adapt to “society.” As enlightened, informed beings ourselves, but especially as those who are raising New Energy children in an enlightened way, our job is to allow and support our children to NOT feel the pressure to assimilate in traditional ways.

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Bashar: The idea being that there is a Whole picture which you may liken unto a large puzzle that has a picture on it, as we know many of you like to play with on your planet. You understand that the puzzle is made of many small individual differently shaped pieces.

Good ! Now we have observed on your planet over the course of, say, several thousands of your years of time, you have been trained to try and be a shape you are not!!

“Try and be this shape.”
“Try and be that shape.”
“Sit here.”
“Come here, belong this way.”
“Do this, Do that, Do not be yourself.”
“That won’t work.”
“Stop daydreaming.”
“Stop being yourself and be who we need you to be.”

So now you have become experts at being someone other than yourself! The idea being, therefore, that when you do that you are no longer the shape you were originally made in. You are no longer as a puzzle piece the shape that fits in the WHOLE you were originally made for.

Then you cannot support the creation of the whole picture because you no longer fit!!

Only by being your natural self will you be your natural shape, and only by being your natural shape will you fit in the space designed just for little old you. And by fitting in that space do you then act in service to every other piece because then you support the WHOLE which supports all the other pieces who are willing to be their true natural shape.

That’s how it works!!!

Extract from Introduction to Bashar tape channeled by Darryl Anka:
http://bashar.org/HOMEMAIN.html http://bashar.org/HOMEMAIN.html

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Cliff’s Notes: “Parenting the New Kids on the Block” class, Part Deux-c

This is the last of the handouts. It actually came from Gail, too, and she got it from a couple of different sources (below). I like to give props where props are due!

Psychic Games

From Metagifted Educational Resources organization www.metagifted.org

Find the Photo Game – Get 6 or so identical sized photos, one of the child, one of a favorite relative, one of a friend, one of a pet. Keeping them face down and separated, ask them to find the one you name – of Auntie Sue or one of themselves, etc. (from ESP For Kids book).

What’s in the Gift Box Game – Have them guess what each birthday present is before opening.

Coin Toss Guess – Toss a coin and have your child guess which side landed up. Keep track. Consider offering prizes for getting it right more than half the time.

It’s in the Cards – Using a standard deck of cards, have the child guess whether each card is red or black. Then move on to guessing suits or numbers. Keep track of correct guesses and praise all correct guesses. Make a big deal about anything greater than 50% accuracy.

Holding the Bag – Put an item in an opaque bag, like a brown lunch bag. Hold it out for them or put it on a table. Have them put their hands on either side of the bag without touching it and tell what sort of vibrations it has. For instance, they can say anything like cold or hot, fuzzy or rough or smooth, metal, food, etc. Praise anything they get right even if they don’t guess the object.

Guess the Color of the Marble – Choose a marble from a bag and guess what color it is before opening your hand. As a more advanced version, decide before choosing what colors you will pull out and then try to get those. You can also use colored blobs of glass that you can get inexpensively at aquarium stores or colored game markers.

Get in Touch Game – Collect several pictures from magazines or photographs that have one central image in each. Have them put hands over or around the picture with their eyes shut and guess what or who is in the photo.

Energy Ball – Collect positive energy (chi) from all around you in the air and compress it with your hands into a small ball of pure energy. Start with a circumference of about 3 feet (beach ball) and bring together to about a 4″ softball. Pull and condense the energy together. Repeat over and over. Each time feel the energy building more and more. Feel the tingle. When you feet it, you can toss it to someone. Play catch with it. If it starts to fall apart, pull it together again. Teach children to build the energy ball themselves.

Sensing the Energy Game – Rub hands together rapidly about 10 seconds. Feel the tingle. Do it again, and then hold your hands facing each other. Feel the energy flow. Do it again and hold your hands further apart – increase from 1 inch to 5 inches to a foot. Try this with a partner and see how far away you can feel the energy from their hands. Next, try standing behind a partner and rubbing your hands together. Then holding your hands out, approach closer and closer and see when they can feel the energy from your hands. Then try the same thing, but touch them and then move away slowly, seeing how many inches away they can feel you. Switch places and see how far away you can feel your partner’s energy. Try this with different partners – like mom/dad/grandma/grandpa, friends. As you increase in sensitivity, try feeling the energy without having to rub your hands together first.

Weather Forecaster – Think about the weather for each day in the next week or so. Without using any resources except your gut feeling, guess what the weather will be like each day for the upcoming week. Write it down and then compare your guesses to the actual weather each day. You can also compare your guesses after you’ve made them to the weather forecast on TV, newspapers or on websites. (idea by Patrick Jordan)

Psychometry Game – Hold an object in one clasped hand. Sense the vibration of it. Let your mind wander over and into the object. Using your imagination, say whatever comes to mind. Use a tape recorder. If you have a group of friends around, have one of them secretly hand you an item and try to figure out which one it is from.

Feel the Light Vibration Game – Hold your hands behind your back with palms out. Another person shines a light, preferably one with a small bright, tight, close beam, on ONE of your hands. You guess which hand has the light one it by mentally seeing your palms and deciding which is brightest. Wiggle a finger of the hand with the light on it.

Many of these ideas came from this resource – ESP for Kids: How to Develop Your Child’s Psychic Ability by Dr. Tag Powell and Carol Howell Mills, 1992, Top of the Mountain Publishing, Largo, FL, ISBN 0-914295-98-5.)

 


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Cliff’s Notes: “Parenting the New Kids on the Block” class, Part Deux-b

This section of my handout is from my dear friend Gail. She rocks. Gail had a vision of me and three other women doing “something” with children. Apparently this blog, my class, and my workshops with children (coming soon!) is my “something.” I’m having fun with it all; Lily and I have been playing with all this information and energy a lot. I hope other parents and their children will, too.

Empowering Children: Parenting From the Heart

Gail Larmer

By nurturing your child’s intuition, you are empowering from within. Start by creating a stimulating home environment. Parents cultivate and motivate — allow children in a designated area at home to touch, explore, experience, stir, pound, pour, help, experiment, etc. Experience motivates children to learn more. Encourage imagination, self-expression and creativity and help them with rediscovery. Give them choices when possible. Learning with hands on activities is the best.

Souls of crystal children have chosen parents who can support them spiritually. Parents’ emotions and stress may vibrationally trigger reactions in sensitive children. Parents can acknowledge their intuitive experiences and share with child when appropriate. Treat intuition as it is, real and natural.

Some tips to keep in mind:

Success is not always measured by test scores.

Guide versus control. Positive reinforcement is KEY.

At dinner ask each child to say what they are thankful for that day. Ask child to give the blessing at meal time.

Psychic children are connected to spirit and emotions more than the physical and mental. Psychic children can sense dishonesty.

In difficult situations, teach child to ask, “What would love do?” or “What would God (Jesus, my guardian angel) do?”

Affirmations work well with children because they remember who they are.

Talk to your children about angels…books, CDs & DVDs can jump start a discussion.

Play intuitive games. Telepathically ask child a question.

Nature – A new garden can become a teaching tool; vegetables, flowers, soil, stalks, fertilizer, insects, etc.  Make a toad house out of cardboard and design. Make a flower arrangement for the fairies and nature beings with items found in the yard or at a nature park. Create a fairy garden or fairy house.  Put water in a shell for the nature beings.

Tree walk – How many different kinds of trees do you see? What feeling does each type of tree give you?

Go on a safari – Record how many animals you see, take a camera along and photograph.

Plant a seed in two separate indoor pots. Make sure the sunlight and water are exactly the same. Have child talk to one plant, sending love and not talk to the other plant. Child soon sees how plants respond to love. Make sure you mark which pot is the “love plant” in case it gets moved around.

Encourage in child’s prayers a prayer for Mother Earth. Have child help with recycling and ask how they think different recycled items can be used.

Create a sensory box or feeling box. Play Guess That Smell (a long pill box works well for different items in the slots.)

Make chakra stones – get smooth round stones, wash, dry and paint in colors of the chakras.  Place colored stones on chakras on a large self drawn portrait. Write or paint words on smooth rounded stones i.e. love, happy, smile, peace, caring, thankful, etc.

Psychic children are very connected to animals. Create a simple bird feeder with a pine cone, spread on peanut butter and sprinkle bird seed on peanut butter. Watch the different birds that come to the feeder and record the type of bird.  Have child pick one bird to work with. Have child make up a story about how that bird spends its day and night. Draw or paint what the bird books like and use feathers if possible.

Start a crystal and rock collection.

 

Music/sound – create a song, play different types of music and ask how it makes the child feel.

 

Art – design a bookmark using poster board, create different types of wings using a flattened coffee filter for angel, butterfly, dragonfly, bird wings, draw, paint, make a collage using recycled items, create a cartoon, create a video, build a sculpture, create a mask, create a maze, make a pyramid out of play dough or clay, make an angel diorama, make prayer flags, create a peace flag, create a family Coat of Arms, create archangel bingo to reinforce names and colors associated with the archangels, make a puppet and give a puppet show, make animals and modeling out of aluminum foil.

 

Writing – Play reporter and do interviews.  Ask people what they are thankful for, how can we make the world a better place, what makes you smile? Create a booklet for “The Care and Feeding Of _______”.  Create a word search game using happy feelings, keep a journal, create a recipe, write a poem, write a joke. Create a crossword puzzle with names of rocks and minerals. Create a nature game show using animals, plants, trees, rocks, etc. for the questions.

Write a booklet and illustrate the 4 seasons from the perspective of ____ (i.e. the sun, a tree, a fairy, etc.) What does it look and feel like during each of the seasons? Write on a paper napkin a positive message or word to surprise a family member at meal time. Create a mobile with inspirational words and add bells to the mobile.  Have child write out, “Who Am I?” and write as much as he/she can. Have child write at top of page, “If I Were A Teacher” and ask child to write what would be important to teach children to help them to be a good citizen and take care of our earth.

Design inspirational oracle cards with poster board. Create a picture on one side and write a message or word on the other side. Have child choose a card each day as a card to work with. Design a special box to keep cards in.

Movies – write a movie review for your friends

Read – write a book review for your friends

 

Dance – choreograph a dance, role play, wear a funny hat or whimsical home made costume and act like a character; ask sibling or friend to guess who you are.  With a partner, create a princess dress on other child out of toilet paper, ribbons and scotch tape.  Make a magic wand out of aluminum foil and stick on embellishments.

Make home made bubbles. Pretend in each bubble an angel or fairy is inside taking flight. Have child tell story about what the angel or fairy is seeing on their journey into the heavens.

Create a scavenger hunt for sibling or friend, along with a map.

 

Photography – teach about orbs

 

Edutainment – Create a scientific experiment to reinforce ____

Design or draw a house of the future, car of the future, technology in the future, etc.

Create a board game to reinforce _____.

Plan a picnic and have child help with the food preparation.

Have a tea party and invite a fairy godmother to be the unseen guest.

A laundry basket can become a teaching tool; counting, sorting, matching, etc. Grocery shopping can be a teaching tool in many ways.  The kitchen is full of many teaching tools and creative exploration.


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Cliff’s Notes: “Parenting the New Kids on the Block” class, Part I

So that class I was getting excited about? The “guinea pig” session went pretty well. Lily came in a few times, needing attention (she had even had a small “accident”), so it made it very hard to focus. We even cut it a bit short. Ah, well. The people who were there were very interested in the topic, and we had a great discussion. All in all, it was great practice for doing it “for real” this Saturday, through Communiversity. If anyone signs up…. If you’re reading this and are interested, please post a comment with your email address, and I’ll send you the link.

Or you can read my handout:

Disclaimer:

The terms Indigo/Crystal/Rainbow are like any other “label,” so proceed with awareness. I am addressing these terms in order to have a better understanding of their traits, tendencies, and preferences only. ALL children are gifted, all special, and they have their own paths. We shouldn’t allow them to become a “label”—rather, allow them to be themselves. We are talking about these different energies as an overview so as to have a toolbox to raise them rather than putting them into boxes, if that makes sense.

Acknowledge their gifts but don’t spotlight them and don’t broadcast that they’re Indigo/Crystal/etc. If they want to, though, fine! As your children get older and sometimes feel separate or “weird,” they may appreciate being able to find other children who are like them and speak the “language” of indigo/crystal/rainbow.

Most of these children will not be spiritual teachers or do anything remotely “spiritual” for a profession. They’ll be mechanics and computer programmers and bankers, etc., but they’ll do it with a greater sensitivity to other people and to the laws of the Universe. Their spirituality and spiritual connection is just what they “are.” It’s like a fish not knowing what “water” is because it’s surrounded by it and doesn’t know anything different!

General information on the new energies:

  • Are coming here to raise the vibration (energy) of the planet, they choose to come here; they are “volunteers.”
  • There are differing opinions on when they started arriving—some say up to 70 years. They tend to come in “waves.”
  • They can be recognized by their aura types.
  • All beings choose to come here and choose “soul families,” but these energies have carefully lined up the situation for the specific purpose of helping humanity and change Earth’s energy.
    • Many have not incarnated before, and others have not incarnated in some time.
    • Those who have incarnated before have “primed the pump, so to say” karmically before arriving.
    • Many of them also remember more of their past lives so as to get a “head start” this time and lift the veil.
    • They choose their parents before incarnating as part of their “soul group” as part of the group’s learning. They typically choose parents of the previous “generation,” who have cleared an energetic path for them. Sometimes the parents are of the same “generation.”
  • Not all of your children may have gifts we’ll discuss, and not all children are Crystal/Indigo/Rainbow. If you think they (or you) are, though—trust that.
  • It is possible to shift from Indigo to Crystal, Crystal to Rainbow, through spiritual work and study, if that is the soul’s choosing.
  • Note: There is a lot of information on the Web about these new children, some of it good, a lot of it not so much. Some of it is even contradictory. Find an author or author(s) you like and stick with them. Carroll/Tober, Doreen Virtue, and Dolores Cannon are all respected experts.

Descriptions, by type:

Indigo:
Have been incarnating over the past 100 years in “waves”: late 1940s-60s (bringing about the radical transformations of the 1960s), and 70s. Nancy Tappe coined the phrase “indigo” in the early 1970s after she started noticing the special qualities of certain young children. The Indigos are pioneers and way-showers. Their purpose is to reveal and cut away anything lacking in integrity. After the horrors and devastation of World War II, a significant number were born, and these are the Indigo adults of today. However, in the 1970s a major wave of Indigos was born, and so we have a whole generation of Indigos who are now in their late twenties and early thirties who are about to take their place as leaders in the world (the driving force behind Occupy Wall Street and other forms of peaceful social change). Indigos continued to be born up to about 2000, with increasing abilities and degrees of technological and creative sophistication.

The Indigos have indigo in their auras. Their role is to pave the path for higher energies, cutting through the old ways of doing things. They have a “warrior spirit.”

  • Have strong self esteem, connection to source
  • “Know” they belong here until they are told otherwise
  • Have an obvious sense of self
  • Have difficulty with discipline and authority
  • Refuse to follow orders or directions
  • Find it torture to waiting in lines, lack patience
  • Get frustrated by ritual-oriented systems that require little creativity
  • Often see better ways of doing thing at home and at school
  • Are mostly nonconformists
  • Do not respond to guilt trips, want good reasons
  • Get bored rather easily with assigned tasks
  • Are rather creative
  • Are easily distractible, can do many things at once
  • Display strong intuition
  • Have strong empathy for others or NO empathy
  • Develop abstract thinking very young
  • Are gifted and/or talented, highly intelligent
  • Are often identified or suspected of having ADD or ADHD, but can focus when they want to
  • Are talented daydreamers and visionaries
  • Have very old, deep, wise looking eyes
  • Have spiritual intelligence and/or psychic skills
  • Often express anger outwardly rather than inwardly and may have trouble with rage
  • Need our support to discover themselves
  • Are here to change the world – to help us live in greater harmony and peace with one another and to raise the vibration of the planet

From http://metagifted.org/topics/metagifted/indigo/indigoChildCharacteristics.html?print

Indigo children are often diagnosed as ADD/ADHD. Doreen Virtue says “ADHD” should be revised to mean “Attention Dialed in to Higher Dimensions.” While ADD/ADHD can and does exist for some children, medicating those who are “simply” indigo only dulls who they are.

Crystal:
Typically (though not always) born to Indigos; healers, compassionate, counselors, forgiving, happy, joyful, magical, and spiritual, strong connection to animals and nature (even rocks). Some have magical abilities. Many are empathic, and they’re sensitive to peoples’ energies.

Crystals often talk later, around the age of 3 or 4, leading parents and doctors to believe that they are autistic. However, they are also very loving and readily give hugs and kisses, which is not an autistic trait.=!

Doreen Virtue: In contrast to Indigos, the Crystal Children are blissful and even-tempered.  Sure, they may have tantrums occasionally, but these children are largely forgiving and easy-going.  The Crystals are the generation who benefit from the Indigos’ trailblazing.  First, the Indigo Children lead with a machete, cutting down anything that lacks integrity.  Then the Crystal Children follow the cleared path, into a safer and more secure world.

The Crystal Children have an authoritative air about them, as if they’re wise adults in little bodies.  Even more, they seem like seasoned sages…little sorcerers and high-priestesses.  Their power doesn’t come from brute force, but rather from determination and crystal-clear intentions.  When parents first encounter their children’s power, it can take them aback.

  • They possess large eyes with an intense stare.
  • They have magnetic personalities.
  • They are highly affectionate.
  • They start talking late in childhood.
  • They are very musically oriented, and may sing before talking.
  • Crystals use telepathy and self-invented sign language to communicate.
  • They may be diagnosed with Autism or Asperger’s syndrome.
  • Crystals are even-tempered, sweet, and loving.
  • They are forgiving of others.
  • They are highly sensitive and empathetic.
  • They are very much connected to nature and animals.
  • Crystals exhibit healing abilities.
  • They are quite interested in crystals and rocks.
  • They often discuss angels, spirit guides and past-life memories.
  • Crystals are extremely artistic and creative.
  • They prefer vegetarian meals and juices to “regular food”.
  • They may be fearless explorers and climbers, with an amazing sense of balance.
  • Crystals are sensitive to loud noise.
  • Crystals are sensitive to crowds.
  • They are sensitive to temperature.
  • They are sensitive to clutter and disorganization.
  • Crystals are sensitive to chaotic environments.
  • Crystals are sensitive to artificial ingredients and chemicals.

http://www.wheelsoflight.org/custom/index.cfm?ID=111147

Rainbow:
Typically born to Crystal parents; coming in now; coming in @ their “spiritual peak”; many have not incarnated on this planet before

They are the embodiment of our divinity and the example of our potential. The Rainbow Children have never lived on this planet before, and they’re going straight to the Crystal Children as their moms and dads. These children are entirely fearless of everybody. They’re little avatars who are all about service. These are children who are only here to give—Rainbow Children are already at their spiritual peak.
 (D.Virtue)

  • Parents are crystal adults.
  • Do not choose dysfunctional families.
  • They are all about service.
  • May have big eyes like the crystal children, but they are totally trusting.
  • Entirely fearless of everybody.
  • Bringing in the healing rainbow energy previously brought through Reiki, QiGong, and Pranic healing and other hands on healing.
  • Crystal children can also be very high energy, have strong personalities, be creative, and can instantly manifest anything they want or need.
  • At a young age, the Rainbow children are able to express their needs and wants. These children actually own a great deal of personal power. Rainbow children may be misinterpreted as stubborn. However, that is our misconception. Rainbow children are born with knowledge on proper character integration. This will develop depending on their parents because the character integration will change if there is negative programming given to the child. As a Rainbow parent, the idea is to recognize what positive traits your Rainbow child holds.
  • Rainbow children will also have immunity against junk food. Most Rainbow children are able to handle mutated cells and food products, which may result in poisoning. This is considered a very important ability, as most people may not recognize the toxins contained in junk food and the Rainbow child can take and process these types of foods with no problem. This is because of the blood that the Rainbow child carries, which has the ability to cleanse the toxins and unwanted bacteria in the food and air. So a Rainbow child may have a lot of physical clearing in the beginning stages of life. This will change once they grow older and learn how to clear ethereally or spiritually.
  • Astonishingly, the Rainbow children come with no karma. Rainbow children will enjoy the life on earth learning with absolutely no strings attached to their past. This is because they do not really continue from any previous cycle of reincarnation. This is also why they have a very high-energy frequency and physical energy.
  • The rainbow child is very hyperactive. They can run the whole night and really tire you out. This is a problem that parents of Rainbow children might face.
  • The purpose of the Rainbow children is to complete the final stages of the foundation that the Indigo and Crystal children have made. The three children, Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow each have a specific task. The Indigo children are to break down the paradigm of the traditional thinking. Then the Crystal children will build their foundation on the broken paradigm. Finally, the Rainbow children are here to build on to what the Indigo and Crystal children began.
  • Few writers have written on the Rainbow children because of their current status as toddlers. However, it is important to know that these children will play an important role in the earth’s evolution.
  • Parents of Rainbow children should understand that their children are special and parents should appreciate the gifts they have. These gifts will help you evolve as they evolve with you.
  • The rainbow children are just starting to show up on this planet, although there are already some scouts around. More Rainbow children will arrive as children of the Crystal children and also when humanity raises their vibrational frequencies and universal consciousness of the concept of oneness.
  • Doreen Virtue says, “the Rainbow children are perfectly balanced in their male and female energies. They are confident without aggressiveness; they are intuitive and psychic without effort; they are magical and can bend time, become invisible, and go without sleep and food. The Crystal children’s sensitivities make them vulnerable to allergies and rashes. The angels say that the Rainbow children will have overcome this aspect… Rainbow children have no karma, so they have no need to choose chaotic childhoods for spiritual growth…The Rainbow children operate purely out of joy, and not out of need or impulse. The babies will be recognized, because their energy is one of giving to parents, and not of neediness. Parents will realize that they cannot out-give their Rainbow children, for these children are a mirror of all actions and energy of love. Whatever loving thoughts, feelings, and actions that you send to them are magnified and returned a hundred-fold.”

http://www.starchildren.info/rainbow.html

We can be born as one and transition to the next level—typically Indigo to Crystal—through spiritual transformation or following a spiritual path. 


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Lessons from a Cat

I’m on a roll. As you may have noticed, I post when the Spirit moves me and I’m really inspired. And when I have time. Ok, mostly when I have time.

Lily and I are cat-sitting for two friends this week. One of them has a Siamese cat who is usually generally stand-offish and sometimes pretty cranky. I’ve not trusted her around Lily, as she’s been known to scratch and bite when petted, and Lily LOVE LOVE LOVES animals, especially petting them.

Well, what do you know. Maybe it’s because my friend has been away for a couple of days now, or because Lily hasn’t been to our friend’s apartment for a really long time (When I cat-sit for her, I tend to go there solo.), or some other reason only known to this particular Siamese, but she actually sought out Lily and loved up on her. REALLY loved up on her, following her around and meowing to be petted. Lily was in blissful, ecstatic, 6-year-old girl heaven. 

As we left, Lilly just gushed about how the last time she saw the cat, it was cranky and hissed at her, but now the cat was “used to her,” or smelled our cats, or “learned to trust her”–and NOW? Just LOVED her!

TEACHABLE MOMENT! I reiterated that the only reason anyone is cranky or mean to anyone is because that person (or cat) feels bad in her/his heart and has forgotten how to feel Love. (After all, we are all born knowing Love. It has to be trained out of us.) I reminded her about one of the administrators at her school, with whom she had recently had a bad encounter. This woman is generally snooty and unpleasant with everyone, and Lily had experienced it this week, saying Ms. D. was “mean.” See my previous post. This is very uncharacteristic of Lily!

I said, think about how the kitty used to be around you–cranky and hissing. Ms. D. is like that sometimes. Today you came in with Love in your heart–so much that it showed–and were open to the cat loving you, immediately giving love in return. The cat was changed, and now you’re friends. People like Ms. D., even though they can be difficult, are only so because their hearts need love. Sometimes it takes a while, and sending that person a LOT of love, but that energy can be transformed. 

We’ll keep working on that. I’m eager to see if the situation changes!


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And That’s How We Sent Lovingkindness to Mitt Romney

Lily and I go to a great church. It’s part of the Unity family, which means it has a VERY open, loving, accepting theology based on Science of Mind, the Law of Attraction, Buddhist philosophy, Christianity, and more. There is also a Buddhist “service,” with a separate children’s meditation, before the regular service. 

This month (February), the Buddhist group issued a “Love Challenge,” or as I call it, “The Loooove Challenge.” It asks members to meditate as a family for five minutes a day, sending Lovingkindness to the world. If you know anything about Buddhism, the basis of it is the practice of Lovingkindness, sent to yourself, then to someone you love, a “neutral” person (someone you barely know, the person sitting two rows away, a cashier at the grocery store, etc.), to a “difficult” person, to all beings, to the Earth, etc. We wish everyone to be happy and to be free from suffering. It’s a beautiful practice. As with anything having to do with sending love and positive energy, it uplifts those who do it as well as those who are receiving love. (Note: Go to http://www.lynnemctaggart.com to see quantitative, documented results of sending loving thoughts.)  

ANYway, I invited Lily to meditate with me. Yeah, she wasn’t up for that. She will meditate at church when the whole class is doing it, and even does really well, but she’s like me and has a hard time meditating at home. I get that and didn’t want to make a big deal or power struggle out of it, so I didn’t push. 

I have found, though, that car time is a great time for us to talk. We are both really receptive. On the way to school a couple of weeks ago, I brought up Lovingkindness and said that even though we haven’t been meditating, we could practice sending love anyway. She picked her Gabby (her grandmother) as a person she loves, and a nice cashier at the grocery store as her “neutral” person, but she was stumped for a “difficult” person. In true Crystal fashion, Lily really does not have a problem with ANYONE. Sure, occasionally she comes home and tells me how hurt she was by something someone may have said on the playground or at lunch, but she is very quick to forgive and forget (this is a very strong Crystal and Rainbow trait). I even mentioned a couple of children who have hurt her feelings in the past, but she said no, she likes them*. 

In the interest of learning the lessons of Lovingkindness, I suggested Mitt Romney. To me, he represents the “old ways” of the Earth: valuing money and corporations over people, supporting billionaires while devaluing teachers, workers, and the poor. Lily and I have had many conversations about how we believe people should be valued and treated, and how those who treat people badly do so only because they feel bad in themselves and do not understand the power of love and kindness, which is really our God-self.

Lily resisted at first, saying that Romney didn’t want our Lovingkindness, but I reminded her that people who do not treat others fairly need it the most. So we sent Lovingkindness to someone we do not agree with. I don’t know if it affected Mitt in the least, but it felt great.

*Editorial Note: This forgiveness, and the ability to like everyone (Ok, Romney is an exception.) is what the Indigos cleared the way for; Crystals are perfecting; and Rainbows, Diamonds, and Golds (will) embody naturally. This is the reason we volunteered, and it is our spiritual evolution.


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Of Wise Words and Princess Costumes (a bit off-topic, but still)

After waiting for me to fix my face before leaving the house, Lily asked me why I put on makeup. I told her that when I didn’t, people asked me if I was sick or really tired! She looked at me with bemused exasperation–the look I’m sure I’ve given her on occasion–and told me, “You know, Mama, you don’t have to do what everybody else says. You can do what you want.”

Ok, I can’t claim that this is specifically a “Crystal” thing to say. She’s heard the same thing from me on many an occasion, after all. But in all honesty, Lily really LIVES this philosophy, and that IS a “Crystal” thing.

The New Kids really do come into the world with a strong sense of self and who they are. They are in touch with their divinity and will often defend it. The Indigos (I’m one, remember) will probably say, “Screw you, Charlie” in similar situations, and I must admit I’ve done just that at times (though less edgily). Lily is steadfast in what she believes when it comes to her looks, and she will not be dissuaded from wearing what she wants, when she wants (though she has learned to comply when it comes to school uniforms). She’s been known to tell her grandma, “I KNOW it doesn’t match, but I don’t care about that. I like it.”

The thing is, I am happy with the way she expresses herself. She’s the kid who wears Disney Princess costumes with a head kerchief and Hindu dot at church. (Yes, she went through a Hindu dot phase, wearing it everywhere.) She used to wear a Dorothy costume everywhere for years. It drives my mom crazy at times, and I’ve seen other moms who are driven crazy by their daughters wearing equally wonderful outfits. As long as her private bits are covered and she’s warmly/cooly dressed, we’re good. I can tell my mom to let it go, but I have seen many little girls be trained to become anxious if their socks or hair bows don’t match. That is not a natural state for a child.

Kids need self-expression, whether they’re Crystals, Rainbows, Diamonds, or Doodle-Heads (I made that one up). It’s the New Kids, though, that claim it as their birthright.